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Organizing the Inside – Day 249 Willing To Be Inconvenienced

1When Jesus returned to Capernaum several days later, the news spread quickly that he was back home. 2Soon the house where he was staying was so packed with visitors that there was no more room, even outside the door. While he was preaching God’s word to them, 3four men arrived carrying a paralyzed man on a mat. 4They couldn’t bring him to Jesus because of the crowd, so they dug a hole through the roof above his head. Then they lowered the man on his mat, right down in front of Jesus. 5Seeing their faith, Jesus said to the paralyzed man, “My child, your sins are forgiven.”  Mark 2:1-5 (NLT)

True friends have a critical role.
Mark shares how this paralyzed man who was unable to get before Jesus on his own was helped by his friends. His friends went to great lengths to see to it that they brought him before the one who could help him. Not only did this man’s friends climb onto the roof, they also had to lift him to the roof as well. They additionally had to go through with digging the hole in just the right place so that when they lowered him down, he would be directly in front of Jesus. I can imagine that this was not necessarily so easy to do. They could have given up and just said we’ll try again some other time when it’s not as crowded. Did they need to exert extra strength or take certain care to make sure the hole was just in the right place? What a huge inconvenience this must have been for this man’s friends.

Yet, what great faith they had, and that faith moved them to action.
Although this was an inconvenience they acted on their faith, on behalf of their friend. As a result of these men acting on their faith, Jesus responded and the paralyzed man was made whole. How willing are you to be inconvenienced for a friend? Is there someone in your life who needs you to bring them right before the Lord? How far are you willing go, to act on your faith? Consider those whom God has made your friends. How does God want to use you in the friendship, and what purpose does this friendship bring?

No greater love.                         
Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13 (NLT) Jesus was referring to His own willingness to die for us, as He indeed considers us His friends. Jesus is also teaching the spiritual perspective whereby one is willing to give up something that is of particular interest or significant value for a friend. Being willing to give of your time, prayers or resources is a way of laying down your life. You are simply laying aside your own desires, wants, needs and motives to give to the life of another. Jesus shows us that there is no greater love. Are you a true friend to someone today? If so, have you considered what you are willing to sacrifice for your friend?

Organizing the Inside – Day 242 Consider Your Friends

20In a wealthy home some utensils are made of gold and silver, and some are made of wood and clay. The expensive utensils are used for special occasions, and the cheap ones are for everyday use. 21If you keep yourself pure, you will be a special utensil for honorable use. Your life will be clean, and you will be ready for the Master to use you for every good work. 22Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts. 2 Timothy 2:20-22

Who are you spending time with?
This scripture encourages us to consider the people we spend time with, the ones who are closest to us. I’ve chosen to sort them into two categories, friends and associates. I’ve come to realize that if I want my life to be enriched and challenged by those around me; perhaps some whom I’ve considered friends need to be moved to the associate category. The inner circle of people we allow to speak into and have influence in our lives should challenge, encourage, and stretch us to grow. As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17 (NLT) Spending time with people who have a love for the things of God will help keep your life sharp and ready to be used for any good work.

Know the purpose of the relationship.
First of all, Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?  2 Corinthian 6:14 (NIV) If there are  unsaved “friends” who are close to you, who you aren’t ministering to, then they very well may need to change categories. Dear sisters, we must be mindful about who our friends are. Having someone in your life, just because the two of you go way back, is not a good reason to allow them to stay in your inner circle. While as difficult as it may be if you want to grow, and experience the ever-increasing faith that an intimate relationship with the Lord brings, you must consider who your closest friends are. Think carefully about the relationship, especially if they have grown comfortable with being around you and not being saved.

Is your life set aside for God’s purpose?
If we want to be used by God in great ways, then we should be ready to make the sacrifices this requires. I’d much rather be God’s special occasion utensil. There is liberty in Christ, and the freedom to do well only strengthens those bonds. What purpose do your closest “friends” serve? Are they an opportunity for ministry? Are they helping you to grow in your faith? If neither of these are the case I recommend you reconsider. Certain people are appropriately suited for the associate category in life. The righteous chooses his friends carefully: but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs 12:26 (KJV)