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Organizing the Inside – Day 315 Just Let It Out

In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Selah Psalm 4:4 (NIV)

Allow God to renew your mind, but make sure you also release the unhealthy stress and pressure at the end of your day. I’m a firm believer that we should never take it home, but that is easier said than done.  Carrying around the frustration, or anger, embarrassment or anxiety that resulted from an intense business meeting or a highly emotional exchange is unhealthy. Perhaps this is why God’s Word tells us, “…and don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry.”  Ephesians 4:26 (NLT) I think this can also be applied to other strong emotions that we experience in our everyday interactions with others. There is nothing abnormal about stress and anger, but when it comes we must not let it linger. Who among us has never been angry? Anger is likely not the problem, it’s how we deal with it and the reasons why it exists to begin with that is usually the problem.

Talking about it can sometimes help. Studies show that people who have a support system and share their feelings with a trusted friend add years to their life expectancy. It is said that people who have more close friends tend to live longer. The point is this; there is clear guidance in the Word of God about dealing with our emotions and not stuffing them down in an attempt to ignore the obvious. When you feel things are building up, as if you might go into complete emotional failure, do something about it. Be proactive when you feel frustration building. There is nothing ungodly about letting off steam, as long as you aren’t exploding in a way that hurts or offends those around you.

Keep God as your first line of defense against built up anger or stress. Telling Him how you feel and taking time to talk it through with the Lord will give you the release you need to keep your heart free. God and I have had many conversations that began in anger and ended with me laughing. I’ll ask Him things like, “Did you see how she acted?” and “Did you hear what they said?” The delayed realization that my trusted Friend and Savior is also omnipresent, has often provided a bit of comic relief. Once I get it all out I’m reminded, that of course He knows what happened. Find comfort by reminding yourself that not only does He see, our God sees and cares. Certain strong emotions and stress when left unchecked can cause problems down the road. Keeping a journal of your feelings is also another way to let it go. Whichever outlet you choose, a friend, prayer, or writing, just remember that your anger will never achieve God righteous purpose. (James 1:20) When it’s called for repent and ask for forgiveness.  (Psalm 139:1, 2) Keep stress and anger in its place; it belongs far away from your heart. Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit; deal with your strong emotions when they occur.

How do you handle the end of a long and stressful day?

Here is a simple and straight forward article about anger.

Organizing the Inside – Day 194 Let’s Take Out The Trash

16So don’t be misled, my dear brothers and sisters. 17Whatever is good and perfect comes down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens.He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.18He chose to give birth to us by giving us his true word. And we, out of all creation, became his prized possession. 19Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. 20Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.
James 1:16-20

The silent treatment
God makes it clear in His Word that our human anger doesn’t achieve His righteous purpose. So what about the silent treatment? I found myself trying to get my anger under control by giving my husband the silent treatment.  Actually, this is no way to deal with anger and will eventually cause more problems. This only gives the enemy an open door to promote more self defeating behavior. And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.”Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. Ephesians 4:26, 27 (NLT)

For those who know me, you’d likely agree;
I generally have a very laid-back demeanor. I don’t often have emotional highs or lows. My temperament is melancholy; therefore when I experience extreme or unreasonable emotional highs it sends a red flag. The most recent experience was when my husband (for the hundredth time) didn’t replace the recycle bin in the kitchen.  I really felt my need to punish such behavior was justified. I wanted to send Him a message that this kind of disorganization would no longer be tolerated. He’d crossed the line and the silent treatment was the only language He would understand. So, I made a conscious choice to maintain complete silence until I got my point across.

The Lord can use the recycling bin,
the trash can, or whatever household items He chooses to speak to our hearts. The object of the lesson is not as important as the message itself. During my silent protest it became apparent that I was overreacting, and God used the recycle bin to show me I’d let things build up.  I allowed hostile resentment about the recycle bin to build in my heart… really?  I began to see that each time the recycle bin was not left in its appointed place, my choice to stuff down my feelings, again was self-defeating. When we feel extreme emotional highs or lows, pretending the feelings don’t exist is like dumping more trash in the compactor.

I had to empty my compactor.
I believe the answer is simple; give it to God and leave it there. Yep, God wants our trash. Certainly He doesn’t want us carrying around all that stuff. The unforgiveness, anger and resentment towards others hurt you far more than you realize. Anger can keep you from being the woman God wants you to be. God is the only one equipped to dispose of our trash. Don’t keep stuffing your feelings down until the compactor starts to spill over with smelly junk. If you’ve been carrying around a full compactor it’s time to allow God to clean it out. Go to Him in prayer and let Him give you peace in exchange for your anger, love in place of your resentment.  Hard feelings will only weigh you down, and hold you back. Let it go! Then go on to fulfill His righteous purpose for your life. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. Matthew 11:29

Organizing the Inside – Day 95 Don’t Let The Sun Go Down On Me

Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, ~Ephesians 4:26

Isn’t life too beautiful and too short to spend it angry, hostile or being judgmental of others?  God did not call us to judge what others do or don’t do. He called us to share the gospel of peace, to lift Him up and be different so that they might see the light of Christ in us. No time for feelings that keep our hearts in turmoil and conflict. Decide to live a simpler life that is free from all the crazy conflict.

Your anger doesn’t achieve God’s righteous purpose. Because you are the salt of the earth your life brings out flavor. Spread love and provide seasoning in the lives of the broken-hearted who live a flavorless existence.

Anger in itself is not sin, but it sure can lead to sin if you don’t handle your business. God is so wonderful His Word is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our pathway. Oh and remember to rejoice always, again I say REJOICE!

Organizing the Inside – Day 62 Unworthy of Compassion

1But Jonah was greatly displeased and became angry. 2He prayed to the Lord, “O Lord, is this not what I said when I was still at home? That is why I was so quick to flee to Tarshish. I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love, a God who relents from sending calamity.
~ Jonah 4:1, 2

Have you ever felt resentment when you see people prosper in their ungodliness?
Have you ever felt like God was unfair in blessing them when they won’t even serve Him?  Perhaps you know of someone who continues to deny Jesus, yet has been obviously blessed with material things and what appears to be happiness.  Maybe you are a Christian, who is struggling to make ends meet, and you regularly give; yet you know of some who never gives but has so much.

Jonah felt angry because of God’s grace and mercy on the people of Nineveh, because he felt they didn’t deserve it.  Jonah resisted the plan of God for his life because he didn’t want the people of Nineveh to repent and find forgiveness for their sins.  He knew that God would have mercy if they repented.

Was Jonah concerned about the wrong things?

Jonah being concerned about the unrighteous prospering went out of his way to keep them from hearing the truth that would cause them to repent.  If you’re like Jonah, your focus has become misdirected by your resentment. Did you do anything, anything to earn God’s grace?

Don’t fret because of evil doers.
Instead be focused on what God wants to do in your life and allow Him to change your heart.  Don’t let anger or bitterness take root in you, remember the love and compassion that God had on you when you were on your freight train, doing 500 miles per hour headed straight to hell.  Show compassion to someone today, even if your mind is telling you they are unworthy.  Christ died to take away the sins of the world.
Also read Proverbs 24:19

Day 49- Do You Have the Heart to Forgive?

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.  ~James 1:19

I was greatly offended and quite frankly I think they’re wrong.  Wrong for what they did, or wrong for what they said and it really made me angry.  I just ought to tell them…  Have you ever felt that you were right in a dispute and your anger toward someone else was justified?  Did you feel like, God was on your side this time, and the other person was just wrong, wrong, wrong?

God promises to be our vindicator if we obey Him and let Him handle the situation.  Getting caught up in disputes about something someone did or said that hurt your feelings is a great way to complicate your life.  If you want to live the simplified life that God wants for you, then it is up to you to pray for the offender and move on.  Okay, so it really hurt your feelings; nevertheless you must forgive them. 

You may feel that you just want to hold on to this offense for a while, because of your so-called righteous indignation. There is a more excellent way; bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. Holding on to anger will never achieve God’s righteous purpose.
1) Ask God for His help.
2) Decide to forgive.
3) Trust God to heal your hurt.
4) Allow God to show the power of love through you.
The quicker you forgive the less likely you are to get a root of bitterness in your heart. What’s too hard for you, well those are the things God specializes in.  Apart from Him you can do nothing… Oh, but with God all things are possible.