Organizing the Inside 365 Days

Empowering Christian Women To Get Organized and Discover God's Plan for Their Lives

Organizing the Inside – Day 143 Learning to Embrace Solitude

My people will live in a peaceful place, in safe homes and quiet places of rest.
Isaiah 32:18   

There was a time in my life when the thought of being alone was horrifying to me.  Although I am not a socialite, the quiet that came when the voices of my family, friends and acquaintances were gone, was so loud it was almost deafening.  I didn’t like talking when no one other than me was listening. Nevertheless, I often found myself talking to myself. My head had too much to say when things got quiet and still, and I’d rather not hear some of what my head’s observations were about how I was doing.

Now, I’ve learned to embrace solitude.
Actually I’ve discovered that there are real benefits in being alone. Taking a moment to breathe and enjoy my own company is something I cherish. It took months before I felt comfortable sitting in a restaurant without a meal companion. Now I think nothing of it, and only hope other women I see dining alone have too, decided to embrace their “me time” with no thoughts of loneliness. Without that time alone, things start to seem to get out of control. When I fail to take time to breathe and create an imaginary island where I’m the only human present I start to feel a slight imbalance. It’s like a taking a ride and once on that rollercoaster of responsibilities, commitments, and expectations it’s hard to get off until the ride stops, and it barely ever stops. Learning to embrace “me time” is one of the single most important things that I have done, to be the woman God has called me to be. I approach it with no agenda and no expectations to finish a project or any other deferred task. I just sit and do whatever I feel like doing. Selfish and self-serving perhaps a little, but the woman who emerges after I’ve had time on my peaceful island, is far more productive and more in tune with the heart of God than she was before the retreat.

Do what feels right.
If you are learning to appreciate the beautiful woman God created you to be, then cultivating just a bit of solitude will only help the process.  Jesus promised that He would never leave us or forsake us and being alone and away from Him is certainly not possible. Prayer and meditation could be a part of your alone time. However be led by the Spirit. I am recommending this time be spent in addition to your regular devotional time, not in place of. I suggest you not put a whole new list of standards and restrictions on this time away from family, friends and others.  God knows that you need time alone, so quiet yourself and take it. Just keep it simple. Do what you feel you want to do.  If you decide you want to have a slice of New York chocolate cheese cake in the bath tub with candles then do so. I only suggest you put it on your schedule and make sure it happens. Make your “alone time” an important priority which will help replenish you and bring much-needed peace to your mind.

Schedule it
Post it
Do It!

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4 Comments»

  definingmydash wrote @

Beautiful! Thanks for the inspiration.

  Liz Mason wrote @

Thank you for stopping by.

  karen augustine wrote @

Hey Liz, what a great post today on the topic of solitude. Most individuals are afraid of being alone due to the fact that the voices are constantly chatting in their mind. Being in solitude also allows for painful memories or situations to creep in, so individuals tune them out by having the TV or music blaring, drowning out the haunting voices. Although God’s voice, the still small voice, also speaks to us in the quietness and people know that. They do not want to hear from God so they tune him out with any noise that is available. For me the greatest thing is solitude, because the quieter I become the better I can hear my inner voice of the Holy Spirit and also the voice of God. I love the solitude and try to have as much of that time as possible, so I do not miss the voice of God. At times I wonder if it is healthy to love the quietness so much. I do have to force myself at times to do things just to be out amongst other human beings. And those human beings must speak quietly, peacefully, positively, and about the things of God. I believe that solitude is a gift to yourself, because when you love yourself, then you can be alone with yourself. Thank you Liz for allowing me to share.

  Liz Mason wrote @

Hey Karen,
The Holy Spirit searches out truth. Sometimes it is necessary to let Him clean out the corners of our minds so that His light might enter in. It’s not the easiest, but it sure beats being trapped with a head full of doubt, loneliness and sorrow. Let’s just let God clean it out and move on to experience His peace.


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